Today I will be talking about marriage. A disclaimer before everything else, Bianca and I are two single ladies, so basically I'm no marriage guru or anything, however, I'll be talking about something plain and simple, idealistic and realistic, sure and indisputable fact about marriage - LOVE.
You see, no matter what idea we may have about getting married to a person, whether it may be for security, a good life, companionship, and whatever your imagination could possibly think of right now, there's always that one key element that makes these ideals work - yes, you're right, of course love. There is no need to discriminate one from the other just because you disagree with their thought about marriage, because as long as you love, as long as they love each other, it will always work.
Why? What about love? We constantly hear that it is never an emotion or a feeling, but rather a sense of responsibility of one to the other. Let me add to that, a sense of unprejudiced nor forced responsibility of one person towards his/her spouse in a give and take manner (never one-sided).
However vague people's representation of love is that we find it difficult to understand and practice to make our own marriages (well, relationships) work, here's a clear instruction that will always keep you on the right track.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8New International
Version (NIV)
4 Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not
proud.
5 It
does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it
keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love
does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It
always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they
will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is
knowledge, it will pass away.
(from Biblegateway.com)
Stereotypical?
You be the judge, whether you believe in God or not (but I hope you certainly
do), reading and living through your life in a love relationship that is based
on what is written in Corinthians, nothing will ever go wrong. Yes it sure is
too ideal, but come to think of it, it's instructions are simple and natural,
like you need not posses anything magical just to live a life like that.
As what I
have told you, I'm no genius in this, I believe nobody ever is, but if we just
all strive to live our lives worthy of all the love known to this world, that
would be really great. And of course, guaranteed, we will always fails; in one
time or another, you will have big bang arguments with your spouses, but I'm
pretty sure things will be fixed when we all go back to what love really is all
about, what your marriage is all about.
And if you
are still not sure about it, start with 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
- xoxo June -
